Don't blame the weights

Hi Evelyn
 
          
      "Align your thinking with
       wholeness and perfection.
       See and expect only good
       to come to you. Doing so,
       you are sure to experience
       peace, joy, harmony and ease."
                  Kathy Juline

When we read a prescription for life like the one in our quote, it's easy for the
inner cynic in us to try to dismiss it.

"Oh, that's easy for you to say, but that's not the way it happens for me!" But that kind of response is a result of not understanding what the quote is saying.

This quote is not saying that you will never get disruptive or challenging
circumstances in your life, it's saying that with the proper inner work done,
you can move through challenging times with ease and grace anyway!

Our normal human reaction to things not going well is usually some
combination of anger at others along with a "poor me" self-pity party. That
reaction takes a toll on us and others around us.

It also doesn't help and often hurts getting to a solution. So we see it as good. A good opportunity to learn, grow, practice and lead.

When we go to the gym, we don't blame the weights for being too heavy, we use
them to make us stronger. In that way we can use adversity to become more capable and competent in life.

And you will.

"Efficiency is doing things right; effectiveness is doing the right things." Peter Drucker

If you're like most people, you have more than one thing to do. You have a bunch of little, easy things and you have a couple of big, complicated things.

It's so easy to fall into the habit of doing the little things first. You can convince yourself that it'll only take a short time and you can get those little things out of the way.

And at the end of the day, what have you gotten done? A few little things, and no big things.

Next day, same thing. So when are you going to get the big, important stuff done?

There's always going to be lots more little things.

Brian Tracy wrote a book about this called "Eat That Frog!" His point is that the big important tasks HAVE to be done first!

He say that if the first thing you do in the morning is eat a big raw frog, the rest of the day will be easy!

When I remember this, I get stuff done. When I forget it, I get to the end of the day with the frog still sitting there.

It feels really good to get stuff done. So eat the frog.

"All of us every single year,we're a different person. I don't think we're the same person all our lives. "Steven Spielberg

Since this is the start of a brand new year, it's a good time to take stock of where we are and where we want to be at this time next year.

One of the things to consider is - who did you become this year?

We're shaped by the experiences and challenges that we encountered. We may have handled them well, or not so well.
How did that affect how you feel about yourself? Do you feel that you handled things well? Or not so well?
What would you change? How would you do it differently?

Think about your relationships. Who supported you, and who did you support? Do you feel that you have built a supportive network of helping
people?
How can you improve that?

If you take these personal and proactive steps to review the year, you put yourself in a position to bring a whole new person to this year's challenges.

And every year you just get better and better.

Happy 2014!

All the best,

Wes

"A fate dictated from outside, from theory or from circumstance, is a false fate". D H Lawrence

There are times in our life, sometimes childhood, sometimes as an adult, where circumstances or conditions seem to dictate our fate.

Now, by fate I don't necessarily mean a major tragedy in our lives, I mean that it seems that circumstances are going to dictate the limits of
what we can do.

Sometimes we get it from our families. "No one in  our family has ever done that, so you can't do it."

Sometimes we get it from our doctors, like the ones that told me I shouldn't ski. I've written about how I had to change doctors.

The toughest voice to overcome, though, is that voice in our own head. That voice that says, "What if I fail?" and then pictures you living in a box behind the supermarket.

The truth is - if you fail you'll just go on and do something else. Successful people fail all the time.

It's the picture of your dire fate as the result of failure that's false. That's what our quote is talking about.

It's a waste of energy to worry about failure. What we should really worry about is what we might lose by never trying.

Create your own fate.

Always the best Medicine

"Don't take yourself too seriously; no one else does! Find reasons to smile and laugh often. Create opportunities to laugh. When others amuse you, laugh with them, not at them. Laugh as often as possible every day." Tamara Gerlach


The best tension reliever is a good laugh, and it's usually free! What's not to like about laughter?

Well, sometimes we just get convinced that our life, our problems, are so serious and important that laughter would be sacriligious.

That's a shame. As our quote says, taking ourselves too seriously just makes us look foolish. How many people that are wrapped up in their own self importance do you want to hang out with?

Yeah, I thought so. I don't want to do that either.

In even better news, science has now shown that laughter is amazingly healing and healthy, too. When we laugh we release a boatload of endorphins in our brain that make us feel good and supports brain health, too.

Being relaxed allows our creativity to flow and we become more productive while we're feeding our mind and body with healthy natural chemicals.

As our quote cautions us, we should remember to laugh with people, not at them. We want everyone to join in the fun, and not be the object of the joke.

That's not hard to do, if we're paying attention. Laughter draws people together, building team spirit and productivity.

So if you're stopped up with seriousness, take a dose of some laughsitive!

All the best

These are my people

"Insecure people have to make excuses and put others down to feel confident. Confidence isn't walking into a room with your nose in the air, and thinking you are better than everyone else, it's walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone in the first place." Author Unknown


I fell in love with this quote the minute I saw it! It manages to take so much wisdom and put it into one simple and memorable statement.

What we are challenged to do is give up measuring our worth by comparing ourselves to others. This is hard, because when we see people with more of the trappings of success than we have, our mind immediately rates us as "less than."

Now that kind of ranking only works if we start out from the same place at the same time to accomplish the same end result.

If you change any of the major parameters, you can't make the comparison. As it is said in the USA, you can't compare apples and oranges.

So our self confidence stems from our belief that we can handle anything that comes up, on our unique path. No comparison with anyone else is required.

In fact, we can celebrate the successes of others, because they are proof that people can succeed. And if they can, with their unique set of skills and problems, so can we.

So we can walk into the room and not compare ourselves to the others there. We can simply look around and say, "These are my people!"

Because they are.

All the best,
Wes

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